xenologer: (YAY)
...I am now legally married.

How awesome is that?







(Now for the rest of my LGBT family who aren't allowed to. Need to get you in on this shit, because this fun should be shared. Your inevitable marriages will lift something of a shadow from everybody else's, so we've got some politicians to harass until they explode. Let's do this shit.)
xenologer: (vagina)
Had to get up really early to be at the state house this morning, but it was worth it. I was testifying against a bill in a committee hearing to defund Planned Parenthood in Indiana, and I got to be the first of the opposition to speak (right after the lady from Right to Life, sitting there with her mouth all pinched up tightly as a cat's asshole).

I'm pretty proud of how I did, and I think I helped. One of the Planned Parenthood lobbyists asked me to email her my testimony so that they could use it as an example of How It Is Done (eeeeee!) and so I thought I'd relay it to y'all as well.

My name is [my name], here on behalf of Planned Parenthood, mostly because of how much I owe of my own health and success to Planned Parenthood. I'm the first woman in my family to get a college degree. My parents were supportive, but we're a military family and as you're all aware, people don't enlist for the money.

My parents were proud, but when it came to the financial end of a $120,000 education, that was entirely up to me. I had no money left over for doctors. I literally endorsed my paychecks and physically handed them over to Butler University.

It would have been easy to sacrifice my health for the sake of being the first woman to finish, but thanks to Planned Parenthood it wasn't necessary. They clearly don't believe young women should have to choose between an education and basic preventative care, and Planned Parenthood are the people doing something about it.

I'll be 25 in a month and I've only had one routine pelvic that wasn't provided at reduced cost by Planned Parenthood. For years, that made Planned Parenthood the only place I could afford to get checkups. I had one shot to get a degree, and I was willing to put everything else second.

I still did do it. My late great-grandmother, who was a young woman during the Depression, got to see our family, after almost eighty years, produce a woman with a college degree. We're talking about a woman for whom birth control pills might as well have been magic. I wasn't stopped by poverty. I wasn't stopped by the looming threat of pregnancy derailing this dream for yet another generation.

If not for Planned Parenthood, I might have been. I see in this legislation a clear statement that women in my position should have to choose between our health and our education, that I should have had to choose: either I can have doctors or knowledge but not both.

It's 2011... and we can give women better options than that. Planned Parenthood are the people offering better options.

Reliable access to preventative care and birth control were the difference between the women in my family for the past eighty years and this woman now. When you're asking yourself whether you approve of Planned Parenthood's impact on this state, you are asking yourself about me.

Do you approve of Planned Parenthood's impact on my life? Or don't you?

Because Planned Parenthood gives women access to a legal procedure that some people may wish you could keep them from having, are you really going to let my success story be one of the last?

This bill has to go, and by saying so here today I hope to repay in small part the debt I owe to this organization. I'm proud to give this act of testifying and my tax dollars for Planned Parenthood and the patients who need them. Thank you for your time.


There's a chance the bill will indeed fail, because the Democrats on this committee are people I pretty much trust not to be horrible shits. I also don't think it'll pass because they try this every damn year. However, both the House and Senate in Indiana are controlled by Republicans, so there's no saying for certain what fuckery they'll get up to.

I'm going back tomorrow, and this time the mister is coming with me. I mentioned offhand to the Planned Parenthood people that he's a pharmacist, and they told me the House added a bill regulating a RU-486 in a particular very stupid way to the committee schedule at the last minute. I got an emphatic Facebook message from the Planned Parenthood lobbyist ("CALL ME" and her phone number. "Right now?" "YES."). She wants him to be available to read a statement on the bill written by one of his former professors and answer questions if the representatives have them.

The Planned Parenthood lobbyist who alerted me to all this told him that we're her new favorite couple. We're my favorite couple, too. The couple that cockpunches the patriarchy together stays together, yeah?
xenologer: (angel/11)
If any of you are like me, you have people that you're deliberately keeping your precise location from. Someone on [community profile] feminist_rage posted this, and I confirmed. My most current information isn't posted, but yours might be.

"There's a site called Spokeo.com that's a new online USA phone book w/personal information: everything from pics you've posted on FB or web, your approx credit. Search your name, find your page, copy the URL and then go to the very bottom of the page and click on the Privacy link to remove yourself. Copy & re-post so your FB friends are aware."

Update!

Sep. 9th, 2010 11:28 am
xenologer: (everybody's aunt)
For anybody's who's been watching this, [livejournal.com profile] bifemmefatale's daughter has been found and wants to come home.

Details here.

Update!

Sep. 9th, 2010 11:28 am
xenologer: (everybody's aunt)
For anybody's who's been watching this, [livejournal.com profile] bifemmefatale's daughter has been found and wants to come home.

Details here.

Update!

Sep. 9th, 2010 11:28 am
xenologer: (everybody's aunt)
For anybody's who's been watching this, [livejournal.com profile] bifemmefatale's daughter has been found and wants to come home.

Details here.
xenologer: (everybody's aunt)
Stealing [livejournal.com profile] rm's summary here.

[livejournal.com profile] bifemmefatale's 16-year-old daughter has run away from home in the Chicago-area. She is currently believed to be heading towards a Rainbow Gathering in Carbondale, IL.

Her family is very worried about her. If you can take a moment to take a look at this picture and keep an eye out for her, that would be good.

So yeah. From what other people have posted, evidently those are the only clothes she has, and there's been suggestion she might be begging for change. This kind of LJ networking has worked before, so please repost this for the sake of the people on your F-list who haven't already seen it.

Thanks all, and take care of yourselves.
xenologer: (everybody's aunt)
Stealing [livejournal.com profile] rm's summary here.

[livejournal.com profile] bifemmefatale's 16-year-old daughter has run away from home in the Chicago-area. She is currently believed to be heading towards a Rainbow Gathering in Carbondale, IL.

Her family is very worried about her. If you can take a moment to take a look at this picture and keep an eye out for her, that would be good.

So yeah. From what other people have posted, evidently those are the only clothes she has, and there's been suggestion she might be begging for change. This kind of LJ networking has worked before, so please repost this for the sake of the people on your F-list who haven't already seen it.

Thanks all, and take care of yourselves.
xenologer: (everybody's aunt)
Stealing [livejournal.com profile] rm's summary here.

[livejournal.com profile] bifemmefatale's 16-year-old daughter has run away from home in the Chicago-area. She is currently believed to be heading towards a Rainbow Gathering in Carbondale, IL.

Her family is very worried about her. If you can take a moment to take a look at this picture and keep an eye out for her, that would be good.

So yeah. From what other people have posted, evidently those are the only clothes she has, and there's been suggestion she might be begging for change. This kind of LJ networking has worked before, so please repost this for the sake of the people on your F-list who haven't already seen it.

Thanks all, and take care of yourselves.
xenologer: (objection!)
Most people get the whole notion of going to the local animal shelter to get a pet. They see it as the more compassionate option, because 60% of animals who enter shelters don't come out again, and not because they're sick or dangerous. There is just a serious lack of resources to offer them, either in a shelter or someone's home. So the idea is to go get one from a shelter because you're saving a life in addition to acquiring a great new addition to the family.

So why do these same people treat adoption of human children like it's some last resort that only failures as women and men ever resort to? Why are they compassionate enough to want to save an animal's life, but when it comes to a human, it's gotta be their genes or no dice. "My way or the highway," except by "the highway" we mean "life in the foster care system potentially being abused and neglected until they become criminals and have only prison to look forward to in their retirement years."

Oopsie babies are one thing. That happens, and if you wanna have it, do it. I just don't for the life of me understand what's going on in people's heads where they'll spend hundreds of thousands of dollars desperately fighting to conceive a child, like they're in fucking short supply or something.
xenologer: (Default)
"Not everything has to be proven, the best things aren't. Can you prove that you love your parents or your children? Can you prove that your romantic partner really loves you?"

CAN YOUR SCIENCE EXPLAIN HOW IT RAINS?

(TO which Sokka insists yes, yes it can.)

Anyway, seriously. I've been getting this from a couple of people, and I thought that I'd just put my thoughts on it here. Saying, "It doesn't matter whether there's any proof of X Supernatural Event/Entity, because not everything that matters is about proof. Sometimes you just have to have faith."

When, um. Lots of things that matter are about proof.

This is the kind of thing that people say who haven't been shown evidence of the kinds of things people ordinarily take on faith. I know my partner loves me because I have evidence from the way he treats me. I know my parents love their children because I have seen the sacrifices they made for them.

I wouldn't believe my partner loved me if he didn't treat me in ways that gave me a reason to believe it. I wouldn't believe my parents love their kids if they didn't act in ways that lead me to this conclusion.

Very few of the things people say must be taken on faith are actually taken on faith by anybody.

Why should I treat the love of God any differently than the love of my partner? More to the point, shouldn't I have some evidence that I have a partner, and then proof that he loves me, and then belief?
xenologer: (Default)
"Not everything has to be proven, the best things aren't. Can you prove that you love your parents or your children? Can you prove that your romantic partner really loves you?"

CAN YOUR SCIENCE EXPLAIN HOW IT RAINS?

(TO which Sokka insists yes, yes it can.)

Anyway, seriously. I've been getting this from a couple of people, and I thought that I'd just put my thoughts on it here. Saying, "It doesn't matter whether there's any proof of X Supernatural Event/Entity, because not everything that matters is about proof. Sometimes you just have to have faith."

When, um. Lots of things that matter are about proof.

This is the kind of thing that people say who haven't been shown evidence of the kinds of things people ordinarily take on faith. I know my partner loves me because I have evidence from the way he treats me. I know my parents love their children because I have seen the sacrifices they made for them.

I wouldn't believe my partner loved me if he didn't treat me in ways that gave me a reason to believe it. I wouldn't believe my parents love their kids if they didn't act in ways that lead me to this conclusion.

Very few of the things people say must be taken on faith are actually taken on faith by anybody.

Why should I treat the love of God any differently than the love of my partner? More to the point, shouldn't I have some evidence that I have a partner, and then proof that he loves me, and then belief?
xenologer: (Default)
"Not everything has to be proven, the best things aren't. Can you prove that you love your parents or your children? Can you prove that your romantic partner really loves you?"

CAN YOUR SCIENCE EXPLAIN HOW IT RAINS?

(TO which Sokka insists yes, yes it can.)

Anyway, seriously. I've been getting this from a couple of people, and I thought that I'd just put my thoughts on it here. Saying, "It doesn't matter whether there's any proof of X Supernatural Event/Entity, because not everything that matters is about proof. Sometimes you just have to have faith."

When, um. Lots of things that matter are about proof.

This is the kind of thing that people say who haven't been shown evidence of the kinds of things people ordinarily take on faith. I know my partner loves me because I have evidence from the way he treats me. I know my parents love their children because I have seen the sacrifices they made for them.

I wouldn't believe my partner loved me if he didn't treat me in ways that gave me a reason to believe it. I wouldn't believe my parents love their kids if they didn't act in ways that lead me to this conclusion.

Very few of the things people say must be taken on faith are actually taken on faith by anybody.

Why should I treat the love of God any differently than the love of my partner? More to the point, shouldn't I have some evidence that I have a partner, and then proof that he loves me, and then belief?
xenologer: (bye bye)
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I'm actually very open by now. In my head, out my mouth. I spent so long hiding and manipulating and skirting the truth without actually lying but in the end just acting all the time so that I could get by on a day to day basis. So I don't do it now.

A lot of people think I'm emotionally guarded, though, because I guard my emotions. I'm open, but not in the sense that I wear my heart on my sleeve and let just anybody stick around and keep hurting me. I cut people off pretty readily if they're fucking up, and I'm okay with that. Doesn't mean I don't open up to people; it means I shut them out if they screw up and I never look back. They can come back when they learn to act right.

Getting rid of the idiots and jerks is how I keep my life a safe space for me to be open. If someone around me makes me feel like I have to start sneaking and hiding and playing games to feel safe? They go away. Because I'm not going to live like that again.
xenologer: (bye bye)
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I'm actually very open by now. In my head, out my mouth. I spent so long hiding and manipulating and skirting the truth without actually lying but in the end just acting all the time so that I could get by on a day to day basis. So I don't do it now.

A lot of people think I'm emotionally guarded, though, because I guard my emotions. I'm open, but not in the sense that I wear my heart on my sleeve and let just anybody stick around and keep hurting me. I cut people off pretty readily if they're fucking up, and I'm okay with that. Doesn't mean I don't open up to people; it means I shut them out if they screw up and I never look back. They can come back when they learn to act right.

Getting rid of the idiots and jerks is how I keep my life a safe space for me to be open. If someone around me makes me feel like I have to start sneaking and hiding and playing games to feel safe? They go away. Because I'm not going to live like that again.
xenologer: (bye bye)
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I'm actually very open by now. In my head, out my mouth. I spent so long hiding and manipulating and skirting the truth without actually lying but in the end just acting all the time so that I could get by on a day to day basis. So I don't do it now.

A lot of people think I'm emotionally guarded, though, because I guard my emotions. I'm open, but not in the sense that I wear my heart on my sleeve and let just anybody stick around and keep hurting me. I cut people off pretty readily if they're fucking up, and I'm okay with that. Doesn't mean I don't open up to people; it means I shut them out if they screw up and I never look back. They can come back when they learn to act right.

Getting rid of the idiots and jerks is how I keep my life a safe space for me to be open. If someone around me makes me feel like I have to start sneaking and hiding and playing games to feel safe? They go away. Because I'm not going to live like that again.

Ancestry

May. 15th, 2010 12:42 am
xenologer: (heritage)
This came up because someone asked me what I thought of PETA the other day.

Cut for length, and for stuff about my personal ancestry that you may not actually find all that interesting. )

Ancestry

May. 15th, 2010 12:42 am
xenologer: (heritage)
This came up because someone asked me what I thought of PETA the other day.

Cut for length, and for stuff about my personal ancestry that you may not actually find all that interesting. )

Ancestry

May. 15th, 2010 12:42 am
xenologer: (heritage)
This came up because someone asked me what I thought of PETA the other day.

Cut for length, and for stuff about my personal ancestry that you may not actually find all that interesting. )
xenologer: (always shine)
Well, that's that.

Went out on review at CAC. What this means is that I had to make my weekly quota three weeks in a row, or else... y'know. that's that. For all that our job description covers motivating each other and the contacts at the door and generating letters and phone calls and all sorts of important things, because the fundraising is the only thing we can quantify... really, the fundraising is the only goal that can make or break you as a canvasser. It's hard to escape the impression that it's the only thing which matters, but we always try.

Hard to see it just now. But you know. That's now. For the past two days, all anybody has been looking at are the numbers, if only in the desperate hope that the numbers would be good enough to give them an excuse to retain me. Canvassers have many jobs, many responsibilities, and they all matter to the organization, to our campaigns, and to the people of Indiana. Really, though, the only one of those that affects us personally is our fundraising. So it's hard to see those other things, sometimes. Like now. But y'know. That's now.

Honestly, I think other people will mind more than I mind, at least right this second. I'm not used to thinking of myself as the popular girl, but I guess at CAC I was. I just tried to make people laugh. Old survival strategy: make them laugh and they won't hate you for being smart or pretty or... or whatever it is you are. So I tried to make them laugh. I guess it worked.

It'll hit the new people hardest. They haven't seen people come and go like I have, and like the people have who've been there even longer than any of the field canvassers. The newer people will miss me. I give everybody else a week, maybe.

The office is the same, no matter who's in it. I didn't change it when I came, and it won't become something else because I'm not there. That's how it is when you have a lot of people moving in and out. Nobody gets a foothold, makes a change, fills a space that will leave a gap when they're gone.

I feel bad for my canvass director who had to do it, though we both knew I'm just sick to death of doing what I've been doing. I needed a change, and whether that was finding a way to get promoted or shifted elsewhere or simply leaving... it was going to happen, or I was going to make it happen. So I'm not jarred or shocked or anything.

But then, maybe it just hasn't hit me yet. Up until yesterday, there was actually a damn good chance I'd still be going back on Monday. But that was up until yesterday. I went to staff night for the first time in months yesterday, and I think it was largely to say goodbye (even if they won't realize this until sometime next week). I came, I sang, I rocked out, I reminded them that we're awesome together, and now I'm out.

The people who notice I'm gone will feel it at first, but it's like every time a move happens, or people graduate, or switch jobs. It hurts at first, because you're pre-emptively missing that person or that group of friends. When the time comes for the actual "missing them" bit, it never quite lives up to expectations.

When you graduate, you promise your friends you'll stay in touch. I made those promises too, because to do otherwise was to hurt the feelings of the people who just didn't understand yet that the parting ritual is hollow. We don't really mean we'll stay in touch. We don't really mean we'll always be friends. What we mean is that we're friends now, and we're sorry that that is ending (if not forever, then at least for now).

It's like every time I moved as a kid. I'm the one who's leaving, I'm the one who's losing, and yet I'm the one who has to comfort everybody else. I'm the one who has to repeat over and over again how all right I'm going to be and yes of course let's stay in touch and definitely we'll hang out. I say it, because if I don't go through the parting ritual they'll think I never liked them and never valued them. They say it because if they're afraid if they don't go through the ritualistic assurances, I'll think that our friendship never mattered.

Sometimes I wonder if I'm the only one who sees it, or if we're both just going through the motions so that each of us knows that the other--at the end--at least cared enough to lie.

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