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I don't know why people are getting so bent out of shape by Brian's comments on RPGWW. I'd like to offer some kind of alternate position to the massive confusion Brian caused by admitting RPGWW isn't perfect. I don't claim this is Brian's position. The views expressed in this entry and any resulting commentary are solely the views of Kai and do not reflect the views of Brian or other RPGWWers.

I'm not sure how to balance this. On the one hand, I don't want to be leaping out plainly defending my boyfriend, because that loses me credibility points. On the other, some people have been hit with a reality check and apparently are immune to reality-elemental effects. Only way to find out is to post and see what happens. After all, if you don't act, you're stuck in the status quo.

I do care about this forum, and maybe Brian and I do really differ on that. I'm leaning strongly toward that opinion myself. I care about the creative projects I've been involved with since I joined. I care about how my own talents and interests have expanded as a result of RPGWW. I also care about trying to repay that favor with the few meager services I can offer: things like RP and artwork or whatever.

Just because I care doesn't mean I'm blind. I've seen what he saw and I bet just about everyone here has, too.

If you feel personally insulted, it might be because it applies to you... So what do you want anybody else to do about it?

On the one hand, yes. It's hard to hear that someone isn't impressed by you. On the other, if you care so much what people think of your future prospects... I don't know. Get some? If you're happy and secure with the life you've got going, that's all that matters. If Brian truly touched a nerve, the best explanation I can find is that you agree and just don't want to think about it. If it cuts a little too close to home that you have serious issues... maybe you could acknowledge that it's true. Beyond that, look into doing something about it instead of flailing them all over the internet like flaccid emo victim-cocks.

I'll admit I'm not worth much to anyone right now. I'm just in college struggling to pay for a degree and hoping that I can get a consultant job to show for it. I'm a college student, a telefundraiser, and a deli clerk. But, unlike a disproportionate number of people on this forum, I'm not content to work minimum-wage jobs (likely for the rest of my life) with no opportunity for advancement so that I can support my [insert nerd-habit here] purchases without having to borrow money from my parents who still cut my meat for me every night at dinner.

I'm just incredibly tired of this weird willingness to accept the most useless norm ever. A norm in which you can waste your life and talents doing essentially nothing with yourself, secure in the knowledge that everyone else is doing it. No one will point it out, because they're all trying to ignore it, too. Idran asked me what I was hoping to solve with this entry. I told him I'm sick of the denial. Acknowledging the problem kicks denial in the shins. Whether I've kicked it hard enough remains to be seen.

This forum is full of really intelligent and often highly creative people. If they gave a damn about their own futures, most of these people have the resources to make it happen. But as long as it's safe to do nothing, I don't think they'll move away from what's easy and comfortable and familiar. Anybody doing this is lying to him/herself, and not doing anyone any favors by doing so.

Idran1701: Fair enough, I can understand that. But I really didn't get the impression from AM's post that he was trying to help them by saying that.
Lithaladhwen: He's not. He's given up.
Idran1701: Ah.
Lithaladhwen: He doesn't care anymore, and I'm listing in that direction as well. If they don't care about themselves, then why should I? The problem is that I'm a sucker for lost causes. Maybe if I can communicate with just one person, I can say I left this forum better than I found it. You know?
Idran1701: *nod*
Lithaladhwen: Right now I think that means doing the one last-resort thing that no one else has tried: The Truth. Whether it's comforting or not.

You know... I was initially kind of bothered by his reply, too. But I asked him what was going on instead of whispering of treachery behind his back. If you care so much, maybe actually discussing problems with people would be a good first step on the way to growing some backbone.

[edit]: Included conversation bits with Idran for the sake of developing/explaining some things a little better.

(no subject)

I don't know why people are getting so bent out of shape by Brian's comments on RPGWW. I'd like to offer some kind of alternate position to the massive confusion Brian caused by admitting RPGWW isn't perfect. I don't claim this is Brian's position. The views expressed in this entry and any resulting commentary are solely the views of Kai and do not reflect the views of Brian or other RPGWWers.

I'm not sure how to balance this. On the one hand, I don't want to be leaping out plainly defending my boyfriend, because that loses me credibility points. On the other, some people have been hit with a reality check and apparently are immune to reality-elemental effects. Only way to find out is to post and see what happens. After all, if you don't act, you're stuck in the status quo.

I do care about this forum, and maybe Brian and I do really differ on that. I'm leaning strongly toward that opinion myself. I care about the creative projects I've been involved with since I joined. I care about how my own talents and interests have expanded as a result of RPGWW. I also care about trying to repay that favor with the few meager services I can offer: things like RP and artwork or whatever.

Just because I care doesn't mean I'm blind. I've seen what he saw and I bet just about everyone here has, too.

If you feel personally insulted, it might be because it applies to you... So what do you want anybody else to do about it?

On the one hand, yes. It's hard to hear that someone isn't impressed by you. On the other, if you care so much what people think of your future prospects... I don't know. Get some? If you're happy and secure with the life you've got going, that's all that matters. If Brian truly touched a nerve, the best explanation I can find is that you agree and just don't want to think about it. If it cuts a little too close to home that you have serious issues... maybe you could acknowledge that it's true. Beyond that, look into doing something about it instead of flailing them all over the internet like flaccid emo victim-cocks.

I'll admit I'm not worth much to anyone right now. I'm just in college struggling to pay for a degree and hoping that I can get a consultant job to show for it. I'm a college student, a telefundraiser, and a deli clerk. But, unlike a disproportionate number of people on this forum, I'm not content to work minimum-wage jobs (likely for the rest of my life) with no opportunity for advancement so that I can support my [insert nerd-habit here] purchases without having to borrow money from my parents who still cut my meat for me every night at dinner.

I'm just incredibly tired of this weird willingness to accept the most useless norm ever. A norm in which you can waste your life and talents doing essentially nothing with yourself, secure in the knowledge that everyone else is doing it. No one will point it out, because they're all trying to ignore it, too. Idran asked me what I was hoping to solve with this entry. I told him I'm sick of the denial. Acknowledging the problem kicks denial in the shins. Whether I've kicked it hard enough remains to be seen.

This forum is full of really intelligent and often highly creative people. If they gave a damn about their own futures, most of these people have the resources to make it happen. But as long as it's safe to do nothing, I don't think they'll move away from what's easy and comfortable and familiar. Anybody doing this is lying to him/herself, and not doing anyone any favors by doing so.

Idran1701: Fair enough, I can understand that. But I really didn't get the impression from AM's post that he was trying to help them by saying that.
Lithaladhwen: He's not. He's given up.
Idran1701: Ah.
Lithaladhwen: He doesn't care anymore, and I'm listing in that direction as well. If they don't care about themselves, then why should I? The problem is that I'm a sucker for lost causes. Maybe if I can communicate with just one person, I can say I left this forum better than I found it. You know?
Idran1701: *nod*
Lithaladhwen: Right now I think that means doing the one last-resort thing that no one else has tried: The Truth. Whether it's comforting or not.

You know... I was initially kind of bothered by his reply, too. But I asked him what was going on instead of whispering of treachery behind his back. If you care so much, maybe actually discussing problems with people would be a good first step on the way to growing some backbone.

[edit]: Included conversation bits with Idran for the sake of developing/explaining some things a little better.

(no subject)

I don't know why people are getting so bent out of shape by Brian's comments on RPGWW. I'd like to offer some kind of alternate position to the massive confusion Brian caused by admitting RPGWW isn't perfect. I don't claim this is Brian's position. The views expressed in this entry and any resulting commentary are solely the views of Kai and do not reflect the views of Brian or other RPGWWers.

I'm not sure how to balance this. On the one hand, I don't want to be leaping out plainly defending my boyfriend, because that loses me credibility points. On the other, some people have been hit with a reality check and apparently are immune to reality-elemental effects. Only way to find out is to post and see what happens. After all, if you don't act, you're stuck in the status quo.

I do care about this forum, and maybe Brian and I do really differ on that. I'm leaning strongly toward that opinion myself. I care about the creative projects I've been involved with since I joined. I care about how my own talents and interests have expanded as a result of RPGWW. I also care about trying to repay that favor with the few meager services I can offer: things like RP and artwork or whatever.

Just because I care doesn't mean I'm blind. I've seen what he saw and I bet just about everyone here has, too.

If you feel personally insulted, it might be because it applies to you... So what do you want anybody else to do about it?

On the one hand, yes. It's hard to hear that someone isn't impressed by you. On the other, if you care so much what people think of your future prospects... I don't know. Get some? If you're happy and secure with the life you've got going, that's all that matters. If Brian truly touched a nerve, the best explanation I can find is that you agree and just don't want to think about it. If it cuts a little too close to home that you have serious issues... maybe you could acknowledge that it's true. Beyond that, look into doing something about it instead of flailing them all over the internet like flaccid emo victim-cocks.

I'll admit I'm not worth much to anyone right now. I'm just in college struggling to pay for a degree and hoping that I can get a consultant job to show for it. I'm a college student, a telefundraiser, and a deli clerk. But, unlike a disproportionate number of people on this forum, I'm not content to work minimum-wage jobs (likely for the rest of my life) with no opportunity for advancement so that I can support my [insert nerd-habit here] purchases without having to borrow money from my parents who still cut my meat for me every night at dinner.

I'm just incredibly tired of this weird willingness to accept the most useless norm ever. A norm in which you can waste your life and talents doing essentially nothing with yourself, secure in the knowledge that everyone else is doing it. No one will point it out, because they're all trying to ignore it, too. Idran asked me what I was hoping to solve with this entry. I told him I'm sick of the denial. Acknowledging the problem kicks denial in the shins. Whether I've kicked it hard enough remains to be seen.

This forum is full of really intelligent and often highly creative people. If they gave a damn about their own futures, most of these people have the resources to make it happen. But as long as it's safe to do nothing, I don't think they'll move away from what's easy and comfortable and familiar. Anybody doing this is lying to him/herself, and not doing anyone any favors by doing so.

Idran1701: Fair enough, I can understand that. But I really didn't get the impression from AM's post that he was trying to help them by saying that.
Lithaladhwen: He's not. He's given up.
Idran1701: Ah.
Lithaladhwen: He doesn't care anymore, and I'm listing in that direction as well. If they don't care about themselves, then why should I? The problem is that I'm a sucker for lost causes. Maybe if I can communicate with just one person, I can say I left this forum better than I found it. You know?
Idran1701: *nod*
Lithaladhwen: Right now I think that means doing the one last-resort thing that no one else has tried: The Truth. Whether it's comforting or not.

You know... I was initially kind of bothered by his reply, too. But I asked him what was going on instead of whispering of treachery behind his back. If you care so much, maybe actually discussing problems with people would be a good first step on the way to growing some backbone.

[edit]: Included conversation bits with Idran for the sake of developing/explaining some things a little better.