I think that I would have had a much lower-drama life if someone had told me when I was younger, "You are doing the wise thing. You are doing the healthy thing. You aren't doing the heinous callous asshole thing. You are doing what healthy people do."
Now I am at the point where I don't care anymore whether my Brain Weasels tell me that I am heartless and don't care about anyone but myself because I have come to understand just how important it is to refuse to play this game. Now that I'm at this point, I am hoping to turn around and give other people the validation that I didn't get.
Hopefully this helps. You're not less than human or more than human. You're just a human who actually sees where things are going and has honestly evaluated whether you want to be there. That is the definition of what sane adult humans do.
*validates validates* =D
And thank you for your validation, btw. Just knowing that there are other people out there who are treated... well, you put it perfectly. To enablers we're either inhuman or superhuman--never human. Just knowing that there are other people out there who are hearing those same things makes me feel loads better.
And I do need that. Entries like this happen partly when I am reassuring myself that I am doing the right thing, because I still have that voice in my head telling me, "But you are so tough and rational and you can be sane enough for everybody SO YOU SHOULD." It really helps having people reply to me like you did.
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Date: 2012-07-27 06:52 pm (UTC)From:Now I am at the point where I don't care anymore whether my Brain Weasels tell me that I am heartless and don't care about anyone but myself because I have come to understand just how important it is to refuse to play this game. Now that I'm at this point, I am hoping to turn around and give other people the validation that I didn't get.
Hopefully this helps. You're not less than human or more than human. You're just a human who actually sees where things are going and has honestly evaluated whether you want to be there. That is the definition of what sane adult humans do.
*validates validates* =D
And thank you for your validation, btw. Just knowing that there are other people out there who are treated... well, you put it perfectly. To enablers we're either inhuman or superhuman--never human. Just knowing that there are other people out there who are hearing those same things makes me feel loads better.
And I do need that. Entries like this happen partly when I am reassuring myself that I am doing the right thing, because I still have that voice in my head telling me, "But you are so tough and rational and you can be sane enough for everybody SO YOU SHOULD." It really helps having people reply to me like you did.